The circumstances under which one discovers they are going to be a parent vary. From surprise to mild planning to obsessive charts and graphs, the possibilities stretch to the moon and back and probably back again.
I can't speak for everyone, sometimes I am guilty of over thinking the room, (buying a lawnmower comes to mind as an example). When I found out that I was going to hold the most important title a man can ever have, my heart and my brain went to a level of elation and concern that I have never experienced before. I mentioned on a few occasions that I didn't exactly know which adjective to describe how I felt because my emotions ran the gamut.
The news is now eighteen weeks old and I have had an adequate amount of time to wrap my thoughts around our little "sweet potato". While I've had the time to think about the soon to be new Hernandez, I have also taken an equal amount of time to examine myself. I have toiled over how or what I need to do to be everything that my family needs me to be. How can I be BETTER for all of us? I'll spare you the details on how I am planning on adapting. I will say that I can certainly do a better job of not feeling like I have to be in control of everything.
I've envisioned his/her birth, birthdays, bike rides, tee ball, bedtime stories heck I've already seen the kid graduate a couple of times! While I know that all of those things will come faster than I would like, as long as our family navigates this world and this life in an orb of love and communication than we'll come out on top more than we are at the bottom. I am going to my BEST to make sure that we are not at the bottom (literally and figuratively)....
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You are experiencing the first pangs of "Parenthood." These are the perfectly normal reactions to the news of impending parenthood. No matter how tiny your bundle of joy may be, the first reactions to the news will have your child through college and possibly even down the aisle before you realize what has hit you. It is completely normal. Once you realize you are a family, you can never think of yourself in any other way again. It is the same for us grandparents. We have wished, hoped and prayed for this day... when we found out it was really here, we are already at the soccer/t-ball games, graduations, every baby, every child, every toy, every game, every cute outfit is scrutinized for appropriate inclusion in the life of our grandbabies. The cycle of life goes on.... as it is meant to. However, now we get to be the fun ones, yeah!!!!! P.S. You (and your lovely wife) will be fabulous parents. You have all the right stuff, you need not worry. First and foremost, you have a good, strong, loving marriage, that is the most important thing. You have respect and caring for each other (a united front is necessary for your survival)! You have nothing to worry about... you'll be great!
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